I would’ve have loved you unconditionally if only you let me…
If there was an afterlife, I’d carry you with me.
that bpd mood when you couldn’t hate yourself more yet somehow you also have the fucking audacity to think other people should worship you. i despise myself and yet in the same moment i desperately hope someone else out there sees something in me that i can’t.
hi fyi, if you don’t support people with low/no empathy, unfollow me.
people with low/no empathy are not:
- monsters
- terrible people
- incapable of being sympathetic
- incapable of being compassionate
- incapable of being nice
- punchlines to a joke
people with low/no empathy are:
- deserving of love
- human beings
- capable of holding a stable, healthy relationship
- just as valuable to the world as empaths are (many surgeons and er doctors have low/no empathy!)
we are just as human and as deserving of love as anyone else. we’re not something to be afraid of - we still have morals and a value for life.
we do not deserve to be demonized as we are.
affective empathy (the kind we can’t feel) is the ability to share feelings with others. for example, if your friend was anxious, you could become anxious through seeing them anxious. those of us born with low/no empathy have no control over it and cannot change this (no matter how much one may want to!)
cognitive empathy (the kind we can feel) is the ability to understand others’ feelings. for example, if your friend was anxious, you would be able to understand what they’re going through, even if you’re not necessarily feeling anxious through them.
compassion is concern and pity for others. for example, if your friend was anxious, you would feel bad for them and want to help as a result.
a post that explains it with more simple and easy to understand format
low/no empathy people can be sympathetic and compassionate. it’s not a bad thing to have low/no empathy - again, some of the most crucial occupations are dominated by low/no empathy people, as they can handle messy situations better than many empaths. first responders, surgeons, trauma doctors, morticians, to name a few.
it’s okay if you’re empathetic and this is the first positivity you’re seeing about this! i was the same way for a long time, i thought no/low empathy people were scary because i didn’t realize i was one of them. you don’t have to be perfect, you can still be learning, all that matters is that you try!