nightmare in disguise

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Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
furiousgoldfish
furiousgoldfish

Abusive parent: you must tiptoe around my very easily provoked feelings, you must never make me feel like a bad parent or hurt my feelings by not obeying me, if I get a little stressed I deserve to take it out on you, I can’t be bothered to do my basic duties but I need you to feel sorry for me, center me and my feelings 24/7 and show unconditional love for me or I will throw a tantrum

Abusive parent (to kid): How old are you to act like this?! Get over yourself, not everything is about you! Grow up already! Nobody is going to tiptoe around your feelings! Stop taking everything personally! Stop expecting anyone’s world to be rotating around you! That is solely reserved for me

mediocremushroom

bad parents raise manipulative children.

mediocremushroom

when you can’t make mistakes or talk through your feelings, you learn to guilt-trip and blame and lie as a defense mechanism. you learn when you need to have other people around as witnesses and when you need to gaslight and how to get what you want through anything but open communication. it totally fucks up every single one of your relationships. 

neurobivergent
neurobivergent

God parents LOVE to justify their shitty, cruel behavior by saying "the world outside is even worse, I'm just preparing you for what's out there so you can hold your own" like yeah I get it the world is harsh and uncomfortable and will knock you down when given the chance. But why are you adding on to it? Your point was to what? Make it hard at home too? Make it uncomfortable enough that I feel like I have to be on guard at all times, AT HOME?

you're supposed to give your kid room to grow and make mistakes and be embarrassing and learn from it. Not use that against them every chance you get. They're supposed to feel safe, feel like they can make mistakes without being deathly scared of their self esteem being torn apart. So many parents don't know the first thing about parenting 🤦

defiantsuggestions
defiantsuggestions

Abusers will often do nice things for you with the intention of using them against you later on.

They'll point at the fact that they bought you your favorite meal or expensive game and tell you that, because they gifted you with this nice thing, you should now put up with their abuse without complaint.

"How dare you hold me accountable for my actions? Every good thing you have is because of me, therefore I am allowed to use you and hurt you in whatever way I please."

Abusers think gifts are a means to own you, your time, and your mental health. They think they can buy the right to stamp you into the ground, and they will tell you to your face that you're selfish if you refuse.

They are wrong. Nice things don't make up for the abuse. Nice things don't erase trauma.

fix-fax-fuckyou
systemfailure-sunrise

me: i think adults should try harder to treat kids as equals to be communicated with instead of defaulting to “im the parent”, “i said so”, or similar things when children disagree with them. they should also accept that their child knows themself best and parents dont always know whats best for them, and should ask their children for their opinions and feelings when big changes that directly effect them are taking place.

my dad: actually, im the parent and i know you better than you know yourself. i know whats best for you and adults opinions will always be more important to me than yours, because they know better. but i love you :)

bunchofboots
bunchofboots

"Why do you never want to take pictures with me?"

The things they say when you take a pic with them.

  • "Stop squinting."
  • "Lift your eyebrows. You look like an angry old man."
  • "Your outfit makes you look homeless."
  • "You smile weird."
  • "You should lift your face so you don't have a double chin."
  • "Your hair looks really greasy."
  • "You could be some makeup on. Just a lil mascara?"
  • "You're not really photogenic."
  • "Suck your stomach in a little. Your tum-tum is blocking my t-shirt."
  • "Can you take some pics of just me?"
  • "Your teeth look really yellow, it ruins the pic."
  • "Why aren't you smiling?"
  • "Here, put your hair up so it looks cleaner."
  • "Get out of my light."
  • "We're having fun, why do you have to ruin the moment with a picture?"
  • "You look like a slob."
  • "Do you ever brush your hair?"
  • "Smile-No, not with your teeth."
  • "Your outfit is kinda- you know. Like we get it."
  • "Ew, you cut your hair."
  • "Just don't touch me, I don't want people to think I'm gay/lesbian."
  • "You always do that face."
  • "You're skinnier than me, I'll look fat."
  • "You're over-dressed. It makes me look like a slob."
  • "Smile a little."
  • "Wipe some of that makeup off, you look like a slut."
  • "You never smile."
  • "Stop covering your face."