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You need a private talk?
Just send me an ask!:)
Anonymous asked:
I ended up relapsing after nearly two years. I don’t know what to do - stopping self harming was the only thing I have actually achieved (or fixed) over the last few years in terms of my mental health. So now it feels like I’m back to square one with all my problems again - plus I feel like a complete failure
selfharmer-problems answered:
you’re totally not back to square one tho! Those two years still happened and all of that progress is still there. It’s still an awesome achievement.
its okay to relapse. it happens all the time. the most important thing is how you deal with it. Take it as an opportunity to learn, think about what happened and how you could handle it differently in the future. you’re not a failure for relapsing.
I know you’re disappointed and frustrated with yourself, but do remember all of that progress that you made and think about how you can be better in the future. - Adrienne
Anonymous asked:
Why do I want to cut again, it’s like the only thing I can think off? I want the buzz the sensation I want it to hurt so much and that rush of control like the first time you smoke a splith the feeling of euphoric pleasures?! What the hell is wrong with me?
selfharmer-problems answered:
There isn’t anything completely wrong with you!
For a lot of us who are chronic self-harmers those urges are things that we deal with for a long time, especially if we experience any kind of stress. It’s similiar to how people who have abused drugs still get urges and have to cope with triggers on a regular basis.
I think you touched on it tho: you want control. You want the euphoria that comes right after cutting yourself (which seems counterintuitive, most people don’t think of self harm as creating a sense of euphoria but it kind of does).
It’s good whenever you find yourself wanting to self harm and feeling triggered to think about things in your life that are triggering it. What feels out of control? how can you gain control of the situation? how can you gain control of your feelings? What are other things that can bring you that euphoria or some kind of happiness or joy? For me, often it’s spending time with friends or my boyfriend, going to concerts or even just listening to music in my apartment, going out to eat my favorite food, exercising, even just going for a walk, ect.
But seriously, don’t feel guilty or like you are fucked up for having those feelings. You’re not broken. You’re struggling with something that most people don’t understand. - Adrienne